Another untold tale from the files of Doctor Intimacy

So we all attend functions and parties and family gatherings, correct?

And what happens at all of these events?

You arrive and you say hi to folks.

Men usually greet other men with a handshake, they greet women with maybe a kiss on the cheek.

Sometimes just a nod of the head or maybe a wave.

When relatives are involved you pray for the air kiss. No actual contact with Auntie Gulch please!

So anyhow...

I arrive at this party last week and start saying hi to folks, hands shaked, cheeks kissed, nods given, waves a plenty.

And then The Brit walks up to me and starts to kiss my cheek. And I tell her to kiss my neck.

And she does so without hesitation. I have her well trained.

And then I tell her to whisper in my ear.

But she doesn't. Or won't. Or something.

And the party goes on. No big deal.

Flash forward a few hours:

The party is winding down and the obligatory nods, and waves, and handshakes, and goodbye cheek kisses commence.

And then The Brit walks up to me and starts to kiss me goodbye on my cheek and I tell her to kiss my neck instead.

And she does so without hesitation. I have her well trained.

And then I tell her to whisper in my ear.

But she doesn't. Or won't. Or something.

And the party ends. No big deal.

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So the week goes on and I ponder why she won't whisper in my ear. Is it too intimate?

She had no problem kissing my neck. Is whispering in the ear some strange intimate British thing?

I have no idea.

So I start asking folks:

"What is more intimate...kissing someone on the neck or whispering in their ear?"

And people take the question seriously. They want to get it 'right'. And they ponder it and explain why they think such and such is more intimate (not sexual).

I ask dozens and dozens of people. Most of those people answer the same way.

It turns out to be a good question.

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And then about a week later I run into The Brit at a restaurant and we discuss the party and I tell her about the question and then ask her what she thinks.

And she answers.

"I think a kiss on the neck is way more intimate then whispering in someone's ear."

And I reply:

"So why wouldn't you whisper in my ear last week at the party?"

And The Brit says:

"I had nothing I wanted to say to you."



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